20/20 vision

“Hindsight,” wrote my friend, “has twenty-twenty vision.”

It always seems that way, when we think back to what we could have, should have said or done. The witty retort, the other alternative…the thing we did not think of at the time… the course we ought to have taken instead of the one that we took…

Thinking about it, though, perhaps hindsight is a little more myopic than it pretends.

At the time, we did the best we could with the person we were then… and could not have done otherwise. Looking back on the past from where we now stand, we have a unique perspective. We can see how events unfolded, one after the other, from that moment until now. We look back armed with all the knowledge and experience we have gained since the moment in question and we stand as one who has grown and changed in the interim.

Those changes have not been random… they have evolved, little by little, building inevitably one upon the other, until we arrive at this moment… the one where we stand looking back with the alleged visual acuity of hindsight…or regret.

The trouble with regret, though, is that had we taken any other course, said or done anything different back in the then, the person looking back would not be the same now. Had we made the witty retort, would our emotions have been different as we walked away? How would those emotions have changed us? We cannot know.

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About Sue Vincent

Sue Vincent is a Yorkshire-born writer and one of the Directors of The Silent Eye, a modern Mystery School. She has written a number of books, both alone and with Stuart France, exploring ancient myths, the mysterious landscape of Albion and the inner journey of the soul. She is owned by a small dog who also blogs. Follow her at scvincent.com and on Twitter @SCVincent Find her books on Goodreads and follow her on Amazon worldwide to find out about new releases and offers. Email: findme@scvincent.com
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17 Responses to 20/20 vision

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  2. I have mostly made peace with the “other” choices … but I am always bothered and nagged about the ones where I thought at the time that maybe I WAS making the wrong choice. Where I wonder if I was being a little lazy and doing the easier thing.

    Because I know I have NOT always done the best I could at the time. Sometimes, i didn’t. I waited. I was busy. I wanted a week to take care of something else … or I was busy with work or something else. Those things matter because I’m pretty sure had I made the other choice, it would have changed things. I was not always right and I didn’t always do the right stuff.

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  3. Deb Whittam says:

    I read on Banksy’s twitter that you should never regret anything for at that moment in time it was exactly what you wanted. I think that is very sound advice.

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  4. This is something I’ve come to know: the me that I am today is who grew out of the choices I had to make in the past. For better or worse, I like myself and who I turned out to be.

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