Anything is possible…

Ok, so you lost your keys, you have looked everywhere… twice… and still cannot find them… then they miraculously appear in the one place you are certain you have looked the closest… And we have all done it. Or you are panicking for the misplaced purse and have checked all the likely and unlikely places, yet it turns up somewhere you really checked diligently, but honestly didn’t expect it to be…

It makes me wonder sometimes just how much we miss because we are simply not looking, even when we genuinely think that we are.  And what happens when we honestly think that we are doing our very best and cannot do better, so that we shroud ourselves in complacency?

How many of us actually look at ourselves and realise we are behaving and believing blindly and through habit? The dragon sleeps quietly before the fire, the armour rusts in a corner. The spirit of the explorer and adventurer we once were has retired from the fray. We are comfortable and why should we risk upsetting the status quo?

But take it from another perspective and it is not so scary to contemplate.

It is common knowledge that my eldest son was left severely injured and close to death, but survived to fight his way back to health. He spent several months in a rehab unit designed to ‘enable’. Yet we found that far from enabling, the ethos of the place, excellent though it was, actually held him back. The real recovery only began when he came home and we had the freedom to be unconventional and unrealistic.

Now it is, admittedly, a fine line to tread between substitution and restitution in these circumstances.  It was early days in his long and as yet incomplete recovery. But almost everything in the rehab unit, from the physical therapies to the psychological input was geared to ensuring that patients accepted the inevitability of their disabilities and to teaching them how to live with them. There was never any mention of fighting back, of possibility, hope, or the difference strength, courage and determination can make.

Yet this is, undoubtedly, one of the best rehab units in the country. We fought to get him there. They are genuinely encouraging, obviously doing their best, efficiently and effectively teaching strategies to allow patients to learn how to adapt to disability in the harsh and unusual world they will have to face. They would, I think, be horrified if they ever realised how negative the effects of their stance can be.

Had we accepted what we were taught there, there is no doubt my son would be constantly wheelchair-bound and in need of care, instead of getting around his own home on his own two feet, doing extraordinary things.

Had my son believed himself permanently wheelchair-bound, he would be. He would not have sought to push beyond his limitations if he had recognised them as such. If we limit ourselves by believing we already have all we can hope for, how can we stretch beyond our limits? Why would we seek to?

It brings everything into question. But unless we press the limits, unless we stretch and expand them, unless we can accept at least the possibility that we may be wrong, or blinkered, or wrapped in our own habitual and familiar vision, we will never even see the prison bars we have constructed, let alone be able to break free of them. But if we can break free… anything is possible.

About Sue Vincent

Sue Vincent is a Yorkshire-born writer and one of the Directors of The Silent Eye, a modern Mystery School. She writes alone and with Stuart France, exploring ancient myths, the mysterious landscape of Albion and the inner journey of the soul. Find out more at France and Vincent. She is owned by a small dog who also blogs. Follow her at scvincent.com and on Twitter @SCVincent. Find her books on Goodreads and follow her on Amazon worldwide to find out about new releases and offers. Email: findme@scvincent.com.
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69 Responses to Anything is possible…

  1. Reblogged this on Musings on Life & Experience and commented:
    Anything is possible.

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  2. beth says:

    beautiful, wonderful, hopeful post. we must be our own advocates for what we know to be right and not limited by expectations and conventions. your family is living proof of that, sue.

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  3. jenanita01 says:

    Your Nick is a wonderful role model, Sue. Proof positive of all you can achieve with the right help and mindset. Truly wonderful you both are!

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  4. It’s nice to see Nick in all these photos. Always a good inspiration and testament to the human spirit’s ability to thrive past obstacles.

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  5. Mary Smith says:

    A great post, Sue, and do pass on my birthday wishes to Nick. Love the image of the dragon asleep in front of the fire and the armour turning rusty! The photos are a wonderful illustration of what can be possible if we keep our armour polished. Where is the last photo?

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  6. memadtwo says:

    Your son is a constant source of wonder and inspiration. (K)

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  7. Sadje says:

    The strength our belief gives us is remarkable. You’re so right that we don’t look enough or believe enough.

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  8. Phew, Sue. This post brought tears to my eyes. Seeing Nick in that last picture really swelled the heart. And so many of those photos brought back memories of the posts that accompanied those adventures. A wonderful, positive message. Congrats!

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  9. Happy birthday to Nick! An inspiration to us all!

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  10. Darlene says:

    This is such a wonderful post, once again proving that attitude is everything. Happy Birthday to Nick. He is such an inspiration. I recall y great uncle being in a truck accident and being severely damaged at age 75. The doctors told him he would never walk again, at his age he would not be able to heal properly. He told them, “The hell I won’t.” (Think John Wayne) In six months he was walking and working on his farm. He lived another 15 years.

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  11. A beautiful message of hope and the benefits of resilience and determination, Sue.

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  12. Wonderfully inspiring! Thanks for you message of hope, Sue. Blessings all around… ❤

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  13. Wonderful and inspiring to see Nick living not just a life but his life. Amazing. xx

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  14. willowdot21 says:

    Nick and the power of belief💜💜💜💜

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  16. rivrvlogr says:

    Kudos to Nick, for all that he has accomplished.

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  17. Oh thankyou, needed to read this today. Stay blest, today and always🌻

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  18. Eliza Waters says:

    Yes, so true! Nick has done amazing things and continues to inspire me to this day!

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  19. Gosh, he is so fit and sportive. Anything is possible, you only need the will, and a lot of fitness too. I am feeling soooooo old. ,-) Maybe i should not only come for a course, i could need some fitness too. Best wishes to you all, Michael

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  20. macjam47 says:

    Through your blog, I have seen Nick make great strides. He is an amazing young man and truly determined. It takes a certain kind of determination to make the progress he has, and I’m always amazed. You and Nick stay well. Hugs. ❤️❤️❤️

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  21. Jennie says:

    This gives hope and determination a whole new meaning! He is a role model for others, and surely inherited your strength. 🙂

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