Look both ways

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“What’s the Egyptian word for Hare?” Not the usual opener to a telephone conversation, I grant you, but less of a surprise than you might think. Nick is finally writing his book. We had been talking about it earlier over coffee before he got up. I had congratulated him on the thirty thousand words he has written over the past few weeks. “Thirty seven thousand,” he corrected. My son never has been one to do things by halves and he book is progressing at an astonishing rate.

I haven’t read it yet… I’m not allowed. I have, however, read other things he has written and know it will be an interesting, and probably inspirational, read. It can’t be otherwise really, given the odds against him being able to write it at all.

The screwdriver that left him brain injured passed through those centres occupied with personality, language processing, memory and the executive functions that permit all kinds of organisation. The secondary injuries from the bleeding inside the skull and the swelling damaged his body, leaving him with severely impaired co-ordination and eyesight, even after the remarkable recovery he has made. His speech, too, was affected.

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So for Nick to be organising his thoughts and memories, expressing them in an articulate and interesting manner and drawing conclusions from them, is astonishing. That he has found a way to write when all the physical abilities involved in doing so have been damaged is also remarkable. Yet he has… and the past few weeks have seen him create a large proportion of his book and get it down in words at a faster rate than most writers I know.

At a time when many of us are still taking stock of our lives as we face a burgeoning year, Nick is forging ahead at an enviable rate with a very clear vision of where he wants to go. At the same time, he is looking back; neither clinging to the past nor to the emotions it raised at the time, but looking back and taking stock from a position of interested distance… and that distance is allowing him to clear up the foggy mixture of emotion and reaction that the past usually leaves with us.

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The problem we have is that our memories are based on the perception we had at the time of an event. Memory takes no account of anything we may have learned since, though it may be overshadowed by subsequent events. You have only to think back to one of those teenage moments that made you cringe at yourself, to feel the hot flush of shame… even though your older, wiser self knows very well that it was just one of those things, unimportant in the grander scheme… and certainly not worth agonising over decades later! One part of your consciousness is still stuck in remembered emotion, while the other might, if you are lucky, smile indulgently at the folly of youth.

To consciously revisit and examine such moments allows them to be put away in the proper ‘file’ of past experience from which, perhaps, we have learned. To revisit them objectively from a place of greater awareness and armed with a wider knowledge of events than the tight focus that was ‘you’, allows a clearer view, not only of the events themselves, but of the journey between that led from there to here, then to now.

And Nick’s journey has been a hell of a ride 🙂


About Sue Vincent

Sue Vincent is a Yorkshire-born writer and one of the Directors of The Silent Eye, a modern Mystery School. She writes alone and with Stuart France, exploring ancient myths, the mysterious landscape of Albion and the inner journey of the soul. Find out more at France and Vincent. She is owned by a small dog who also blogs. Follow her at scvincent.com and on Twitter @SCVincent. Find her books on Goodreads and follow her on Amazon worldwide to find out about new releases and offers. Email: findme@scvincent.com.
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65 Responses to Look both ways

  1. reocochran says:

    I always enjoy mother and son talks. My son calls and brings up the skies, day or night, sends me photos of bugs and wonders, plus his children, Sue. 🙂


  2. BunKaryudo says:

    Nick’s progress continues to amaze. I’m stunned by the speed at which he has able to get his book underway. He’s like a ball of pure energy.


  3. Ritu says:

    I look forward to hearing about his book!


  4. barbtaub says:

    Now that’s a book I don’t want to miss!


  5. macjam47 says:

    Looking forward to reading Nick’s book. Wow! You have an amazing son, Sue.


  6. socialbridge says:

    That’s great that Nick’s book is coming on so well. He’s one in a zillion!


  7. Annette Rochelle Aben says:

    Looking forward to Nick’s book! 🙂


  8. Mary Smith says:

    I look forward to being able to read Nick’s book. Do you think you’ll be allowed to read it before it goes to print?


  9. He is a living miracle. I’ll be you can’t wait to read his words. ☺


  10. Helen Jones says:

    He is an extraordinary person – what an achievement! You must be so very proud 🙂


  11. Mick Canning says:

    he sounds really focused, Sue. Fantastic.




  13. He’s amazing and I do love his blogs and comments 🙂


  14. Eliza Waters says:

    I think we should start calling him THE AMAZING NICK, instead of just Nick. 🙂 Because he always amazes!


  15. Julian Beach says:

    The human spirit is a fine thing.

    Go Nick!


  16. noelleg44 says:

    Nick’s book is going to be a winner. He inherited writing genes from his Mum, and her prowess is incontrovertible. Go Nick!


  17. You have One amazing Son Sue.. and his spirit us remarkable.. 🙂
    Blessings to you both.. Sue


  18. Judy Martin says:

    I bet that is going to be one great book! 🙂


  19. Reblogged this on Barrow Blogs: and commented:
    Memory and emotion go hand in hand, I think – perhaps that’s inevitable, Sue?


    • Sue Vincent says:

      If it doesn’t touch the emotions, it gets immediately filed away in memory as unimportant… everything is in there, but only emotional experiences remain near enough to the surface, I think, to access them readily.


  20. davidprosser says:

    Nick is still a great inspiration to others but with your help and encouragement he’s come on in leaps and bounds in a relatively short time. I guess this is going to be a heck of a book to read.
    xxx Massive Hugs xxx


  21. dgkaye says:

    Nick is amazing. And now we know why he’s been so quiet, secretly crafting a book! 🙂


  22. Reblogged this on Musings on Life & Experience and commented:
    All the best to Nick in 2016.


  23. An amazing story within a story.


  24. Léa says:

    Sue, inspirational! It is often those who for whatever reason ‘cannot’, do! Bonne courage et bonne chance!


  25. I read most of this on Nick’s site. I noticed in his comments that he’s finished the first draft! Amazing. He clearly has a lot to say. How wonderful that you both share the joy of writing 🙂


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