Walking the line…

“… so fear was originally there to help us survive.”
“Yep… and with not many sabre-tooth tigers roaming the suburbs, we found other things to fear. And fear is intimately linked to how we judge people.”
“How so?”

It was one of those early morning conversations over coffee and from the nature of fear we had progressed to how we unconsciously judge the people that we meet. It is all very well to say that we should not judge…but we do. At least to a certain degree. Sitting in moral judgement upon someone’s actions is a slightly different matter, but we do seem to be programmed to make judgements about the people who arrive in our lives. It comes from the same primitive survival instinct as fear and is part of the same process. If a hunter comes face to face with another spear-wielding man, that snap judgement would be the deciding factor; does he run from a foe, throw his own spear, or welcome a fellow hunter to the chase?

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Our need for such judgements may not be so acute these days, but the instinct remains. We just use it in a more abstract way. A new person arrives on the scene… a new colleague, perhaps… and an immediate reaction determines what we see as our best approach. How we judge them then determines, rightly or wrongly, what we expect of them too.

But how do we make that judgement? Against what measure are we holding them? We only have our own normality, our own world view, with which to work… and that, of necessity, becomes our median line. Some people will quickly climb high in our estimation, others will let us down. People will either surpass our expectations or fall below them…and hopefully we can rejoice at the one and learn from the other.

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About Sue Vincent

Sue Vincent is a Yorkshire-born writer and one of the Directors of The Silent Eye, a modern Mystery School. She has written a number of books, both alone and with Stuart France, exploring ancient myths, the mysterious landscape of Albion and the inner journey of the soul. She is owned by a small dog who also blogs. Follow her at scvincent.com and on Twitter @SCVincent Find her books on Goodreads and follow her on Amazon worldwide to find out about new releases and offers. Email: findme@scvincent.com
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9 Responses to Walking the line…

  1. kirizar says:

    Okay, you’ve put out a lot in the last few hours. (I feel pretty good if I manage one a week.) Then I noticed this links to a second blog. How many blogs are you managing? I’m overwhelmed with just the one I have that I add content to once, maybe twice, a week. How does she do it, ladies and gentlemen?

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  2. Widdershins says:

    One of the things I think contributes to the insane levels of stress people carry is that our fear-flight/fight instinct is still stuck in survival mode … and very few of the things we ‘fear’ are truly in the ‘survival’ category. (some still are, of course, but that’s a whole ‘nuther kettle of kittens)
    So we operate with artificially elevated levels of stress almost all the time, which are unsustainable, only we keep on pushing and pushing, and pushing, because that’s what we’re ‘supposed’ to do, and no-one teaches us a different way of viewing/being. (unless we find a way, as adults to seek a Path through all that murk … which is a whole ‘nuther kettle of kittens too. 🙂 )

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    • Sue Vincent says:

      Yes, I agree… as (on the whole) our bodies face fewer threats or we have elearned how to walk between them, like crossing a road, the fear instict has tranferred its attention to the ego. Instead of serving us, it has become a prasitic predator.

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